It’s not a job that many people could do. And specifically, I think there is a very particular reason why only women are capable of giving birth. The act of raising a child, with a partner or not, isn’t for the faint hearted. We wanted to give you some quick, actionable ideas for how to reduce the mental strain of parenting and tips for finding support throughout your community.
1. Reach Out:
Never be afraid to ask for help. What you’re doing is enough. Don’t stress yourself by feeling as if you have to keep up with everyone else and maintain everything the same way that you did prior to having children. Understand that being a mother is draining, but also doubles as the most important and loving job in the world - give yourself credit for this. If you have family around you, let them help and make it easy for them to do so. Write a list of jobs you need doing, and anyone who is willing can just cross a few off. This means that you don’t have to feel like you’re ‘asking’ for help all the time, but you’re enabling people to assist you in a way that will truly take something off your shoulders. If you don’t have family close, look towards friends, colleagues, support groups and even get in contact with people online!
However, they also have online facebook meetings for breastfeeding support and information on the last Tuesday of every month at 7:30pm. Secondly, their website has a great information page which covers common questions that mothers have. It’s a great place to reach out to other mothers from the comfort of your own home!
2. Keep a Journal (or just a pad) handy:
Write things down! To-do lists, symptoms, questions you have, people you need to follow up with. Giving your mind the ability to unload onto a piece of paper enables you to focus on what’s in front of you. Having one journal where you keep everything ensures that you’re less likely to lose loose pieces of paper. However, a pad on the fridge can be just as handy.
Self care comes in a range of forms and will probably not look like the late night baths or pamper evening you would have been able to give yourself before motherhood. Although you change and develop, your need for self care and ‘recharging’ yourself remains the same if not increasing when you have a child. Check out our blog post here, all about self care tips for mums.
4. Join a Support Group:
SPACE is a support network that runs close to our heart. Morag, co-founder of Live Lively is a SPACE facilitator and understands first hand the difference that a supportive network and community can have on easing the mental load of raising a child. It’s a lovely environment to learn more about baby’s development, meet other mothers going through the same stages as you are, ask questions and bond over shared experiences. Space Waikato’s programme runs for four terms so you are also introducing your baby to his or her first friends.
Check out this link to find a SPACE group near you!
Most importantly, remember the basics: eat nourishing nutritious foods, drink lots of water, get fresh air, exercise and connect socially. Sometimes, days which just consist of getting the basics done are all you need. You suddenly realise that everything else we pile on top of our days is un-necessary and simply should be saved for another day (if completed at all). If you’re realising that you’re simply not coping, check out this link below for a PDF download with a collation of SPACE recommended solutions for reaching out and getting help. This is specifically designed for the Waikato area, however may give you some great ideas for solutions to follow up with in your area.
Click here to download!
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